Sticking with the emotions of my blog (DEPRESSING) here comes another subject that causes emotional stress.
You know that dreaded feeling you begin to get when you involve yourself in an heated argument with your partner? That ball at the back of your throat where you desperately try to fight back your tears because it’s not that “deep”.
Conflict in relationships is what keeps it alive right? But why does it hurt so much? If it’s meant to keep the flame alive between the two, why does it cause pain? In fairness, yes what is a relationship without arguments, if your not getting sick of each other at any point then your not in the relationship for the right reasons.
But my point of view – being in a relationship for so long at such a young age, does cause petty arguments. Arguments about who said what, untidiness, being in the way, distracting each other when we are doing something we like and being ungrateful for the little things we do for each other. See when we argue, one needs the space and time apart whereas the other needs attention…needs to be fought for. The day we begin to stop bothering to argue back is the day feelings begin to fade, but when one person is fighting for it to be resolved and the other just wants space, there is no winning! What happened to the days when the passion was so strong that each of you couldn’t stand to argue with each other, felt sick to your stomach when you knew they are about to go to bed distraught? I guess, I guess relationships are not always fair, you need to learn to expand and accept the way your partner handles things; me being so young means I still have so much to learn, which I need to take in and view as a positive thing. But what I do know, if you love someone with all your heart and soul you don’t let them forget it, whether that makes you clingy or annoying you do not let the one you love think they’re not as loved as they truly are; otherwise what are you doing in that relationship?